After Very Public Divorce, Sara Evans is Back and Better Than Ever

[ 0 ] March 9, 2011 |

Country singer Sara Evans has gone through publicly what no one would ever want to go through – period.

After living through a very public, bitter divorce that was splayed all over the national tabloids, Evans married former University of Alabama quarterback Jay Barker in 2008 and moved from Nashville to Birmingham, Ala., where they live with their blended family of seven children. Evans’ name became well-known outside of country circles in October 2006 when she became a contestant on Dancing With the Stars. She left the show because of the breakup of her 13-year marriage to businessman-turned-politician Craig Schelske; the news stories came quick after that, focusing on the nastiest aspects of her divorce.

Evans told that with her new life firmly launched, she’s now relaunching her career after keeping those vocals silent for five years. Evans is set to launch a sure-to-be-hit single, “A Little Bit Stronger,” from her new album, Stronger. Evans’ album, Real Fine Place, went platinum in 2005.

“I just have to say that sometimes life takes over, and you have to switch around your priorities. And I definitely did,” she told “We had a hit song on the greatest hits album, and then I married Jay. And then moving to Birmingham and changing managers, there was just a whole period of time when I had to put family first.”

While Evans has used music to help her heal, the recovery process after a divorce, particularly a very public one, is never easy. But there are other ways to navigate the challenges you meet in the aftermath. Our genConnect relationship expert Rachel Sussman offers some coping strategies to help make it through divorce.

“Recovering from your divorce is a process that cannot be rushed. It will take significant time to go through all the emotions you may be feeling – sadness, failure, guilt, anger, elation, freedom, and fear,” Sussman says. “Your progress can be slowed or stopped if you are not allowing yourself to feel these feelings, process and validate them, and then build the right foundation for recovery.”

These strategies include:

  • Healing takes time – respect your process.
  • Take responsibility and educate yourself about why your marriage ended. Moving on will be difficult if you do not create and work through your own narrative, and this is best done with a trained therapist.
  • Find comforting activities for the moments when you are feeling sad.
  • Build a support team.
  • Get daily encouragement and inspiration.
  • For more from Rachel Sussman:

    Navigating the Challenges of Divorce

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    Lara Logan Not Alone in Dealing With Harassment, Assault on the Job

    Rachel Sussman’s Dose of Love

    Are You The One for Me?

    How to Meet the Right Partner

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    5 Tips for Dating, Again

    Has Economic Recession Actually Prevented Some Couples From Getting Divorced?

    Online Dating Safety Rules With Julie Spira (VIDEO)

    Keeping Your Sex Life Alive — With Kids

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    About Rachel Sussman, LCSW: RACHEL A. SUSSMAN, LCSW, is a licensed psychotherapist and is the founder of Sussman Counseling, a psychotherapy practice specializing in treating couples and individuals with relationship dilemmas. Rachel is the author of the forthcoming book [...]
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