Relationship expert Dr. Marianne Brandon on speaking his language and keeping your connection intimate without intercourse
Ask any mother and she’ll tell you – sometimes sex is the last thing on her mind. It just makes sense, considering all the stresses and responsibilities involved in the world’s most important profession. And when lack of interest lasts for more than a few weeks, a couple’s intimate relationship can suffer. BUT here’s some good news. These are five simple, almost effortless things you can do to maintain your intimate connection with your beloved, making him feel loved and appreciated—even when making love is the last thing on your mind!
- Touch Him
Brush his cheek while you speak with him, stroke his arm lightly at dinner, hold his hand while watching TV, or rub his back while you hug. Touch can say things to him that words never could.
- Make Eye Contact
When you greet him in the morning and evening, when you ask him about his day, even when you talk about household chores. Eye contact acknowledges him and shows him you are interested in what he has to say.
- Smile at Him
Little has the capacity to please a man more than when the woman he loves smiles at him. A smile will open and warm his heart, and your feminine attention is so good for his soul. Gift him with your gorgeous grin!
- Play With His Hair
While watching TV, or when laying in bed before sleeping, he’ll adore the feeling of your fingers running through his hair. If he’s balding, then stroke his head. Head rubs are so pleasurable and require such little effort to offer.
- Pay Attention to Yourself
Men are visually oriented - they love to look. Making the effort of putting on make-up, or changing into a blouse instead of sweats, can brighten his day more than you realize.
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More From Dr. Marianne Brandon:
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- 4 Lessons I’ve Learned as a Sex Therapist
- The Sexier Side of Sex
- What NOT to Do in Bed
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