How to Navigate Holiday Parties as a Single or Coupled

[ 0 ] December 15, 2014 |

Holiday-Party

SINGLE? HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH THE QUESTION OF “OH ARE YOU STILL SINGLE?”

Even if the fact that you’re “still” single is seriously letting you down, resist your urge to: A- Bite the persons head off for touching on a sore spot, or B- Throw yourself a pity party. Why? You’ll just bring down the joyful energy in the room. Instead, have a positive attitude, talk about the great things that you have been up to, the new project that you are overseeing in your job, or the safari that you just got back from. And don’t be shy to throw in “But, yes, I’m single and looking, so if you know anyone…” I have heard numerous stories of grandmas who set up their granddaughter with “the nice boy at her doctor’s office.”

HOW DO I INVITE MY NEW PARTNER TO HOLIDAY DINNER WITHOUT PUTTING ON ANY PRESSURE?

Talk about holiday traditions within your families. If there’s a dinner party, who attends, what special dishes do you eat, what makes it such a festive occasion for you. After explaining how much fun yours is, then you can say “of course, I’d love you to join. I think you’d really enjoy it.” I prefer the “I’d love you to join,” as opposed to the you’re welcome to join” approach because “you’re welcome to…” sounds like a backhanded invite, like “I don’t really want to invite you, but since I feel obligated to I will…” While “I’d love you to join” shows that you would like them there, but you aren’t pressuring him. You are giving an invitation to join without being pushy, being awkward, or making him feel left out.

HOW CAN YOU MAKE THE BEST FIRST IMPRESSION WHEN YOU’RE THE GUEST AT YOUR PARTNER’S FAMILY’S HOME FOR THE HOLIDAYS?

Be yourself. So many people try to put on a show. They talk about their accomplishments like they are reading their bio as they try to sell themselves to the family, hoping, or more like begging them to like you. Don’t do that. It feels too forced. Be your natural self. The person who your guy fell in love with. Strike up conversations with family members. It’s a good idea to have a conversation with your partner ahead of time in order to get the basic scoop on a few people who you might have something in common with. Then strike up real conversations with as many people as you can. You don’t have to sell yourself in order for them to buy what a great person you are.

 

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About Laurel House: Laurel House has been writing about dating and sex for fourteen years as an expert and insider. As a professional dating coach and flirting expert, Laurel has been deemed the “Man Whisperer,” and has written [...]
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